Some Special(yet some common) Things to START BELIEVING in yourself AGAIN - PART 5

...to be continued.

13) Accept your emotions without judging them

You all know what, you will agree to this.

Emotions are very big players, both against and with us.

Whenever we experience an uncomfortable feeling, such as sadness, fear or anger, our first instinct is to ignore it, reject it or push it away. And this fair enough, we don’t really want to walk around feeling emotional pain all the time.

Emotions give us useful information about our lives.

It’s understanding that you don’t need to “control” your emotions. They cannot do any damage to you. This means allowing your emotions to just be without negatively judging them or trying to change them.

14) Get rid of these 5 toxic beliefs

Your beliefs and thoughts shape the perspective of your life. The way you think, interpret and react to a situation depends on your beliefs that matter for you. But if your beliefs aren’t accurate, they could be negatively affecting you.

Here are some beliefs that may sabotage our life:

i. The present is indicative of the future

When life isn’t going well, it’s common to believe that your life will always be like this. And when things are going great, we think it won’t last long.

This is a self-fulfilling prophecy and it’s bad judgment. The truth is, change is the only constant in the universe. Nothing remains fixed. So when things are going bad, realize that eventually, it has to change.

ii. Being vulnerable is dangerous

No one enjoys feeling uncomfortable. But the truth is, progress can only occur when you step out of your comfort zone.

And the only way you’ll be able to do that is by embracing imperfection and accepting that you’re going to feel uncomfortable.

Embrace who you are and what you’re feeling. You might find that it leads to insights that you never thought were possible.

iii. What everyone does to you is personal

Some of us tend to think that anything happening to us is a direct assault on us. But when we start seeing the world this way, it can quickly become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The truth is, the world isn’t out to get you and neither are other people. What people think about you says more about them than it does about you.

We all have a lens with which we see the world, so choose yours to be optimistic and hopeful. Your mind will thank you for it.

iv. Being alone is a problem

If you can’t be comfortable spending time with yourself, how can you love yourself?

This is a dangerous belief because in life, the only person we can rely on is ourselves. As Buddhism says, happiness can only come from within yourself, so stop seeking external factors to make you happy.

v. Fitting in is a good thing

We’re taught to believe that we need to fit in if we want to be happy. But the problem with this is that you don’t embrace the idea that you’re unique.

Instead, you try to fit inside a limiting box society has created for you to be ‘normal’.

Embrace who you are. The happiest people are authentic people.

15) Do what you'll say you'll do

If you want to be proud of yourself and who you are, take action when you say you’ll take action. 

How do you feel when someone says they’ll do something and then they don’t? They lose credibility.

So build your own credibility with yourself. Live with integrity.

Every time you take action and achieve something, you build confidence in yourself.

After all, life is about taking action, engaging in new experiences and achieving goals. And these goals don’t have to be big. The smaller ones are perhaps more important. If you say you’re going to clean the house, do it! It’ll make you happy.

Thank you for reading !

Tell me in the comment section how you could relate these points to yourself.

For the first part, click: https://mayankthapliyal.blogspot.com/2020/08/some-specialyet-some-common-things-to.html

For the second part, click: https://mayankthapliyal.blogspot.com/2020/08/part2.html

For the third part, click: https://mayankthapliyal.blogspot.com/2020/08/part3.html

For the fourth part, click: https://mayankthapliyal.blogspot.com/2020/08/part4.html